Over and over again, I have met other adoptees who have struggled with things like feeling worthless, rejected, like they dont “fit it”, behavior like sex outside of marriage or sex with no meaning, drug problems, probation problems, depression, health problems…etc.
I met a young boy on a plane the other day. He was on his way home from an all boys boarding school that his parents had sent him to because of his past decisions, history of doing illegal things and feeling like he didn’t belong which caused him to rebel. As we got to talking, he said that he was adopted. It all clicked with me at that point. Not because I thought every child had this problem, but because I had had some similar struggles with being adopted.
Just like this young boy, I had grown up in a Christian home, I had a wonderful life surrounded by amazing friends and family…and yet I still didn’t feel “good enough” or like I “belonged.” My parents and I have and still are trying to figure out how to make the best of it. I dont know we can “fix” the problem because I will always be adopted, but I hope to mend things.
I am wondering today- WHY do so many adoptees struggle so much in life and feel like they don't belong when they've grown up in such a stable, loving, Christian home? It blows me away…it makes no sense to me…but I live it almost every day.