I am writing in response to the abortion video you released recently. Let me start by introducing myself. I am a 26 year old from Texas and I, too, have had a unique experience with abortion. I survived the abortion that took the life of my twin in 1988. My biological mother was told that her abortion experience would be positive and that her life would go back to normal but it didn’t. Instead it came with a domino effect of hardship, regret and turmoil. It was her deepest secret for twenty one years when she revealed the truth to my family and I. The abortion not only effected her life but many of our lives. Once I knew the truth behind my birth, I began to do research and what I found was shocking to say the least.
I know that you say that you are happy with your decision and that you watch the video of your abortion proudly but often times that is what we do to cover up significant pain in our lives. We make something painful seem or look ok (or even great) so that others won’t recognize what we are actually going through. This may or may not be reasoning for you but if it is you are not alone. One out of three women in our country today have had an abortion and studies show that a large number of those women regret their abortion. The regret and the pain doesn’t always happen right after the abortion but the reality will set in at some point.
You are probably receiving letters and calls from people of different walks of life. Some agree with you while many don’t. Besides the attempt to normalize abortion, the main reason that I personally find the video disturbing is the fact that it is not a realistic.
Realistically if I were to walk into most abortion clinics today what I would find would not be what was seen in your video. We know this because time and time again investigations have shown that not only are abortion facilities short handed on nursing staff and doctors but abortion facilities follow the minimum requirements (if that) for patient care and cleanliness; and many are being shut down because they are not willing to higher their standard of care. I find your video misleading and offensive because it does not show the reality of abortion. The abortion experience and giving birth hold no similarities as you said they did. Abortion facilities do not provide quality care to women. If they did there would be no reason for releasing your video.
I hope that when you look at the ultrasound picture of your baby that you will remember my face. When you remember my face, also remember that your child is up in heaven with my twin and God can make it possible for you to reunite with that child one day if you let Him. When the day comes when you realize what was done and you need support, we will be here. Your pro choice friends likely wont but you can count on people like me because not only do I know that healing is possible but I believe in the power of grace. I know first hand because it has been extended time and time again to me when I haven’t deserved it.
I will continue to pray for you.