Some days you just need to hear that you're a good mom even though you look like a mess, your house is a mess and you have a million errands to run that still have not been run...even when you feel like all you say is "stop" and "no" and "I've got to get this work done sweetie, go watch that movie"....and when you make a bigger mess playing with your kids instead of making a healthy meal from scratch for dinner that somehow other moms find the time to do! Sometimes being a mom is hard and I just need to hear that it's ok and that I'm doing a good job regardless if other moms make it "look better." Sometimes you need a friend who will come over to your messy house, play with your wild kids, and find something to help feed the kids in your almost empty refrigerator because you haven’t found time or energy to make it to the grocery store. Sometimes you are just surviving. Sometimes you are so tired that you can’t see straight or think straight from the long week of errands, fits thrown by your kids and lack of sleep because you stayed up too late doing a whole bunch of nothing after the kids went to sleep and you are dragging because of it. There are days where you are jealous of the moms that can afford a babysitter to watch their kids while they run errands and you “unfollow” the moms on Facebook whose bodies look like they never had any children while you still wear 6 sizes bigger than before you had kids. Sometimes you dream about the days before kids because you wish you had the energy and the time to just do ONE of those things without dragging toddlers along. Sometimes being a mom is hard…but when you think about all the things you get to experience because of those same little kids that make your life exponentially harder, you wouldn’t trade your current messy life for the world.
The things that you get to experience that you didn’t before are messy but incredible. The fact that you don’t have the ability or the time to walk around you house grumpy and rude for the first hour after you wake up makes your day start out much more enjoyable. Instead you wake up to children smiling at you and excited to see you (like they didn’t see you the day before! Regardless they are just as excited to see you each morning!) The comments like “mom, you is so styyyywish” as they stare at you in your day old smeared makeup, messy hair, stinky morning breath and your (should have already been put away) maternity pajamas that you have on (a year or more after the baby was born), the “thank you” for breakfast and for taking them to the park, the forgiveness they have when you lose your patience, the hugs that “make it all better” when they get in trouble and test their boundaries…The books that light up their world at naptime and the comfort they long for knowing you will tuck them in, the mischief in their eyes as you chase them around the grocery store as you get nothing accomplished that you were hoping for and the twinkle in their eye as they ask for the same toy they asked for last time you were there hoping that you might say “yes,” they all make the chaos worth it. The “finish your nuggets before you can have dessert” and the way their world crumbles every single night when you say it’s time to go to bed as if they didn’t know it was going to happen each night; believe it or not, you (we) will miss it.
Being a mom is hard but it is worth it. There is nothing like the love of a child. They see us as beautiful, as invincible and as priceless! I know that no one else sees me the way that my children do. I could learn a lot from them but most of the time I take it for granted. Today I chose to just sit on the floor in my messy house (with laundry on the couch that hadn’t been folded, dirty dishes in the sink, an empty panty, a load of work on my desk that still needed to be finished) and just be there will my kids and soak up the moments. I saw beauty in the chaos and I felt calm in the midst of my never ending to-do list. I noticed the love and the fun that my kids bring to my life daily and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Being a mom is hard but it’s the most incredible blessing I’ve ever been given.
BEING A MOM IS WORTH IT.
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