In response to a link I posted on my Facebook Fanpage (@Claire’s Story; Abortion Survivor) that was titled “Dad commits suicide after girlfriend threatens abortion,” I received this remark:
C: It’s the woman’s body, if she really wants an abortion, I’m sorry, but the man shouldnt force her not to. It’s her choice.
My response: While the suicide may or may not have been the reason, I can whole heartedly tell each and every one of you, through personal experience, that abortion affects men too. Do you really believe that while a child is created by a MAN and a woman, a man should have no say in what happens to a pregnancy that he helped create? My biological father never knew about me- he never knew about my twin- when he found out about my biological mother’s abortion attempts (and her successful abortion that aborted my twin brother) his life spiraled down and he ended up in prison. I cant tell you for a fact that the reason he is in prison is because of the abortion- but I can whole heartedly tell you that it affected him in deep hurtful ways. Bottom line is abortion affects men and we, as women, need to stand up for their rights and their choices too.
MEN are often forgotten about and many don’t believe that this is a men’s issue…I often speak of the man’s role in a crisis pregnancy situation and while I, many times, have a differing opinion from others…No one can deny the truth that conception requires involvement from a MAN and a woman.
So why are we so quick, as a society, to ignore the rights of a man just because he is not going to physically deliver the child?
Last night I did an event in Missouri and I acknowledged the men in the room like I usually do…and I realized that it is so common for us, as women, to want a man to be involved in our lives, respect us, advocate for us, care about our wellbeing, etc and yet we don’t want to respect their rights and their “choices” in a basic choice that involves fatherhood. We label men as the ones that want out and are absent from a family and yet, when they want to involved and be considered in THE decision that involves creating a family; we brush their rights , feelings and decisions aside because it’s “not their body.”
Does this make sense to you? I full heartedly believe that women deserve respect, love and the ability to make decisions equally to men…I am an advocate for women…But how can we expect men to treat us equally when we deny their equality to us??
Think about it.
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